...How she became Mrs Olalekan
Enjoy the bride's story.
I met the love of my life, Olawale Sabur Olalekan on Facebook in June 2011. Getting a preferable girl of his tribe and religion in Abuja where he lives seemed a difficult task.He explained that one fateful day he made up his mind to search Facebook for a girl and the first name that crossed his mind was "Fatima".
I was the first "Fatima" at the top because we had 2 mutual friends, one of our mutual friends was his former hostel mate in Olabisi Onabanjo University(OOU), Pharm Funmi Adeleke who happens to be a school daughter to my elder sister while in OOU,she is more of a family friend to us. In fact,she met her hubby through my sister.
Hardly do I accept request from people i don't know on FB, so I couldn't fathom till date how we became friends .To cut the long story short anytime he sees me online he would ask for number but I refused.
But one day he sent " I SWEAR BY THE NAME OF ALMIGHTY ALLAH I HAVE GOOD INTENTIONS" and I laughed.
Though it seemed funny but that was the first time I really noticed him. I checked his profile picture but it wasn't clear thus couldn't place his face. We had been chatting for a long time but I never noticed because he wasn't the only male asking for my number.
Pharm. Funmi tried convincing me to give him a chance that he is a good person but I told her about my relationship so she advised I tell him and I did. But to my utter most surprise he said that shouldn't stop us from being friends and so we exchange numbers.
We got talking and I asked about his relationship status and he explained what transpired between his last girlfriend. I appreciate the fact that he never lied.
With time he got to know I wasn't lying about having a boyfriend because I was always tagging that same person whenever I post picture. I told him not to waste his time but he said he would only give up when I get married.
While we got talking as friends,I discovered we share somethings in common,football inclusive, and I appreciate the fact that he took his time to explain what I don't understand in it.
He tried sending me gifts but I refused because I didn't want to encourage him.During one of his visit to Lagos he requested that I meet him at the Airport,he sent me one of his pictures so I would be able to recognise him but it wasn't clear.
And alas,we met in person and what I saw wasn't bad.A dark complexioned good looking averagely tall man with a baby face. He was looking slim though he is chubby now and I imagined him taller in my mind.
The next day he invited me for a movie and we did lunch afterwards,I kept reminding him about my being in a serious relationship,so he won't be carried away.
He insisted on taking me out the following day, I refused and reminded him about my position. He wanted to come visit me but I declined with the explanation that I had a shopping to make in the market. We went to the market together and people thought we were couple because of the way he was acting. He opted to pay for what I got which I refused.Though my relationship wasn't ok that moment but I made ma position clearer. He finally decided we should be friends when I asked how he would feel if he were in my boyfriend's position.
I wanted to match make him with some of my single friends after he left the following day but he blatantly refused. We stopped talking on phone but chatted once in a while and in this course I noticed a girl usually tag him whenever she posts picture. We got chatting and I asked,he told me he met someone but the relationship didn't last due to one reason or the other .He was single again.
He asked about my ex one day,someone close to me also did that same day so that got me curious,checked my wall and I saw my ex had posted as usual on my wall about us having an issue. Told him not to expect anything still but we continued talking. He was there most times giving me comforting words whenever I was down,he wanted to meet my mum before she passed but couldn't.
Had issues with my ex again and this time it lasted for a longer time because I didn't apologised as i used to.I had been the one finding the balance in the 5years relationship.People close to us tried to get it settled because of the time we had invested in it.
Finally the relationship culminated.
Wale tried dating other people but it didn't just work out,he was in IB to see one of them and we met again.He had his ICAN induction and I promised to be there but couldn't.We talked about so many things and he got to know about my being single though I was still hoping things work out because I didn't want to start afresh.
He asked again and I told him to give me three months and he added that since he could wait for 2years,then three months means nothing. We got closer in the course of this, though the family of my Ex tried settling our differences but it just didn't work out.
I finally made up my mind to date Wale one day after I asked about his position on relationship and marriage,his reply really made me see things in a different position unlike the way I usually see it. It didn't get to the three months before we started using "fond" names for each other.
I also spoke with Pharm Funmi and she encouraged me. I couldn't wait for 3mths to end before I said yes to him and I am grateful I did.
I got married to Abdulsobur(patience) in Dec 2015,he has been nothing but a great, wonderful and understanding husband,as his name implies "patience"
I pray to Almighty Allah to continue to protect our marriage. I wish,I just wish I had met him earlier,our love story would have been more interesting.
Moral of the story...
Time, chance and distance are just mere circumstances in life situation. We can always do and be what we want to be,though it may take time.
The couple got married in Dec 2015 and though it took yours truly to get this together. I still did!.
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